Discovering yourself 2

In the part 1 of "Discovering Yourself" the main question we asked ourselves was "Who am I"? And having answered that question we move to the part 2.

The part 2 consists of 4 steps, which you have to follow to find out your true self and then live your life happily.

1. Conquering your world: To conquer means to defeat, to overcome, to win. For one to win you have to immerse yourself in solitude, give yourself some time and space to get away from expectations, the conversations, the noise, the media and all the pressure. Take some time t meditate, go for a long walk and think, think about yourself, what you want, take a long thoughtful road trip, move away from anything that distracts you from contemplating your life and where you want it to go. In solitude , you should feel independent and self-sufficient, not lonely, needy or afraid.

Every person need time alone, be you introvert, extrovert, single, married, in a relationship, young or old. Solitude is time for rejuvenation and self-talk. If you a creative person you may that alone-time will help stoke your creativity. While it's nice to collaborate with other people sometimes it is hard to be truly creative when you are always surrounded by other people, "step back and tap your creativity". 

2. Seek out passion: When you believe truly in something, or see beauty in something you should find a way and do it no matter what anyone else thinks. If you have found something that is worthy of your best efforts, sacrifice, and tears, then you have found the most important pursuit of your life. Often pursuit can lead you to something ultimately fulfilling.

The most important key here is for you to realise that it doesn't matter what it is, it could be dancing, cooking, painting, writing and so on and so forth. We should know that there is no scale when it comes to passion. You either feel it or you don't; when you find something that zaps you out of bed in the morning, cling onto it you will only bloom from there.

3. Find a Mentor: Soul Searching can only be done by you and you alone. It is only you that determines what you need, having a mentor will be a incredible resource when you hit those unavoidable bumps in the road. Look out for someone you trust who has a sense of self, how did they do it?

Talk to your mentor, let your mentor know the process you are starting to undertake. Stress that you that it's a journey, but you did love to use their strength as a guide. Take a look at them as objectively as you can, what seems to ground them, making them who they are? How did they find that? How did they stay true to themselves?

A supporting system is key to any self-improvement tactics, not everyone will understand what you're going through.

4. Sort out your career path, if you're meandering all over the place looking for the right place to "fit", chances are that you are not happy inside. Find yourself by really talking an interest in what you love to do. If money weren't an issue what would you spend your days doing? Is there any way you can monetize this activity/skill?

Spend sometime free associating , think about what you like and don't like. Think beyond these things. Then come back to the career question and look at the free associations. What type of career seems to get most with the things that excited, moved and really energised you from the free-association exercise? 

In the pursuit of finding and sustaining your true self you need to tell yourself the truth.